My youngest son turned sixteen this week and I made him lemon brownies because he asked for white cake.
No, I actually haven’t lost my mind, really. My youngest child is my gentle child and he requires special listening skills to understand what he is saying.
For his birthday we were trying to get the extended family together for dinner. It is always challenging to bring all of us together. While I am blessed that my husband and I are together after all these years, not all of the family is so lucky. When you bring broken people and fractured families together, there are lots of jagged edges and pokey-places with which to rub one another wrong.
When my son said he wanted white cake, what he was really saying was that he wanted something that everyone liked and no one would complain about, regardless of whether or not he wanted that. His perceptiveness touched me, as it always does, but I didn’t want to make him a white cake. He’s the kind of person who risks going too far in accommodating others, so far he could easily get out of balance. I know the terrain far too well.
So I pushed. I said, ‘I know that’s what you think everyone else would like, but if you didn’t have to worry about anyone else, what would you want?’ ‘Chocolate or lemon’, he said. When I suggested Lemon Brownies, his eyes lit up in that special quiet way they do when someone actually takes the time to understand him.
So he got a whole pan of lemon brownies that he didn’t have to share with anyone else (though he has anyway) and I got that special boy-hug that said ‘I know mom loves me; she listens.’
- 1 (18 ounce) boxes lemon cake mix
- 1 (3 ounce) packages lemon gelatin
- 1/2 cup cooking oil
- 3 eggs
- 1 cup icing sugar
- 1/2 cup lemon juice
Directions: Grease and flour a 13″ X 9″ pan. Preheat oven to 325°F Beat together the dry cake mix, dry Jello powder, oil, and eggs. Pour into the prepared pan. Bake at 325F for 25 to 30 minutes or until done. Remove from oven and punch holes all over the cake with a toothpick. Combine icing sugar and lemon juice until smooth. Spoon over cake. Cool and cut into squares.
Not only did I make brownies, I got a some writing done; in all a fairly productive week:
Words of Fiction Written: 11,200 words on 3 different fiction projects
Words of Nonfiction written: 2500
Blog Posts Prepared: 11 posts for four different sites
Emails written: 61 emails, about 3000 words
Social Media Interactions: 45, about 1200 words
Articles Read (Research and writing craft/business): 10 research and 25 craft/business
Web site Formatting: work on 3 different sites.
This weeks total words: 17,900
I’ll leave you with a couple new entries from my Writer’s Sketchbook, just a few observations from around the neighborhood.
- The mild neutrality of her words might have fooled those who cared not to know better. But that she should sound so very calm when she should not screamed in ear-shattering tones.
- It was difficult to know what to make of his rumpled shirt and stained pants. He was either too confident to care or too clueless to recognize the impression he made.
I would love to hear what you think. Please have your share of the conversation in the comments!